I am an Australian woman with a fiery mix of Danish and Celtic extraction. I have been an activist for abused women, one way or another, for 25 years, culminating in the co-authoring and publishing of my book, Real Rape, Real Pain: Help for Women Sexually Assaulted by Male partners. and more latterly, co-editing Intimate Partner Sexual Violence A Multidisciplinary Guide to Improving Services and Support for Survivors of Rape and Abuse. I gained an Associate Diploma in Welfare Studies (La Trobe University, Victoria, Australia), and chose to put my professional qualifications and survivorship to the use of tackling the insufficiently addressed issue of partner rape/sexual assault. I have gained recognized international expertise on this topic. I write on Intimate Partner Sexual Violence for international publications, appear at training seminars, and speak on this issue in the media. In late 2008 I was offered an honorarium to be part of a new collaborative project between the Minnesota Center Against Violence and Abuse (MINCAVA) and the Office on Violence Against Women (OVW) in the USA
I am passionate, but I like to think that over the years, this has become tempered (not diminished) with some caution about how, and where I put my energy out. Human rights is my greatest passion; I have worked with asylum-seekers and war refugees. Current activities include, but are not limited to, being Co-director of Pandora's Project, site of the wonderful message-board, Pandora's Aquarium, through which I've made some lifelong friendships. I have struggled - successfully most of the time - with PTSD since childhood. I have (also successsfully) balled agoraphobia since 2008.
I have a best friend in my lovely, gorgeous husband Ken; we have five children (that's my little girl Suzy and me, above) and six grandchildren.
My best she-friends are Annie and Helen, my sisters Mandy and Sue and my daughter Christina. Oh, God knows how I would do without these women.
I love my husband, reading, adequate sleep, feminism, web design, flowers, witches, polite salespersons, Princess Diana, Anne of Green Gables, being cooked for, music from Black Sabbath to Beethoven and particularly at the moment Goth, soap making, dancing, good booze, films. anything Harry Potter and an off-colour joke. My favourite colour is pink and if you hate that colour this site will drive you crazy.
I don't like peanut butter, bigotry, being treated like an idiot, "men's/father's rights" activists, Mel Gibson, Holocaust denial, fundamentalist religion or doctor's appointments. Deliberate cruelty makes me ill.
I am proud to be a Feminist with radical roots long after that is fashionable.
I have a sense of humour, but need to remind myself to use it from time. One of my best traits is generosity, and I hope when I die it will be said of me that I have truly loved humanity. Worst traits...hmmm...have you got all day? I am easily hurt and fearful, I hold slow-burning grudges and am inclined towards clumsiness. But on the whole I'm not a bad soul, and have not done too badly all things considered.