|After a six your relationship, 5 mths. Later he raped me. I went out with him, we both drink, he follows me home and ask to go to bathroom. I agree, he bypass bathroom and go i.to my room, turning on my light. I ask him to leave and he refuse. I turn the light of and before i knew it, he grabs me by my neck and slam me to the bed.from behild he hold me down while punching me in the head to shut up. Afterwards i was in shock and felt stuck. I didnt know what to do until my son realized something waa not right wth me. I was drinking alot and avoiding him, which both was not something of my norm. Two weeks after i reported the rape, seeked help. Today as i write this, iam with him. I plan to still press charges. I say to myself i am looking for closure. I feel humilated, ashame, and bac to feeling stuck. Can someone help. These emotions are crazy.
Reply: Yes, San, somebody can help you, hon. I'm so sorry you were raped, and I think it may be helpful for you to get in touch with a sexual assault service. Please see this page for international hotlines. If you are with somebody who punishes you with rape for leaving, this is very dangerous. For safety concerns, please speak to a domestic violence counsellor. You can find numbers on the same page. Your emotions may feel crazy, but let me assure you they're not.
Take care and remember that you and your safety are a priority, always.