Aphrodite Wounded:Useful Articles for Partner Rape Survivors

AS OF Dec 2012, broken links are fixed. This page contains a range of articles on IPSV / partner rape, domestic violence, healing and more for you to browse. There's some really good stuff, so grab a cuppa (but watch your keyboard) and pull up a a chair. Look below for a few new articles. If you know of an article that you think would fit here, or you've written one, please contact me about it! I would also be very much obliged for any contact about broken links.

Some of the articles are pdf files, which means that you'll need Acrobat Reader to view them. It can be downloaded free here.

Please be aware that the content of some articles may trigger.

IPSV & RAPE / RELATED ARTICLES

Falling Into a Crevasse Within the Crack: My Experience of IPSV (pdf) - (Partner Rape without battery) by Carleen Hite. (Author has given permission for use; please give credit).
It's all OVER..(pdf). by survivor Becky; this wonderful and heartrending article is a snapshot of Becky's discussions with other women in a shelter, illustrating how women will speak about partner rape given an atmosphere of mutual support - and also the hardships mothers face when leaving partners who rape them. (Author has given permission for use; please give credit)
Marital/Partner Rape - If it happens, what to do, pressing charges etc by Womenslaw.org
Prosecuting Intimate Partner Sexual Violence by Jennifer Gentile Long
Advice for Criminal Justice Staff and/or Advocates to Aid IPSV Survivors by Patricia Easteal
Making Marital Rape A Crime: A Long Road Traveled, A Long Way to Go by Lynn Hecht Schafran, Director, National Judicial Education Program, Stefanie Lopez-Boy, Program Associate, National Judicial Education Program and Mary Rothwell Davis
Hidden Hurt Marital Rape Article - by a survivor
Vow of Silence - Survivors (self-included) and workers talk about partner rape
Sleeping with the Enemy - another article I appeared in
Raped by Someone you Love - UK feature with me and two other survivors
Mother speaks out after prosecuting partner for attempted rape
Considering the Differences: Intimate Partner Sexual Violence in Sexual Assault and Domestic Violence Discourse - by Louise McOrmond-Plummer
Rape, the Most Intimate of Crimes: An examination of rape, featuring compelling interviews with victims and perpetrators by Mary Dickson
Gang Rape - by Kristy Pandora's Aquarium
Surviving Oral Rape - by Jackie and Jes, Pandora's Aquarium
Rape-Related Pregnancy - by Louise, of Pandora's Aquarium
"Grey Area" Rape - by Stephanie, Pandora's Aquarium

DOMESTIC VIOLENCE

Leveling the Family Court Playing Field - Tom Alongi
Couples counselling when there is abuse: one woman's story
Lundy Bancroft: DV in popular culture - DV is a male-on-female crime.
Pandora's Project Chat with Lundy Bancroft transcript
Safety Planning with Children - Lundy Bancroft
Improving the Court Response to Domestic Violence - Lundy Bancroft
The Connection Between Batterers and Child Sexual Abuse Perpetrators - Lundy Bancroft
When battered women stay: Advocacy beyond leaving - Jill Davies (pdf)
Abusive Relationship Healing - 5 Tips For Lifting Depression After Your Abusive Relationship - By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Assessing and Monitoring Programs for Men Who Abuse Women - Lundy Bancroft
I've Thought About Leaving - How can I do it?
Domestic Violence and Child Custody - 3 Reasons She is a Ranting, Raving Battered Woman - By Dr. Jeanne King, Ph.D.
Emotional Abuse - Are You Being "Too Sensitive"? Probably Not
20 Traits of a Malignant Narcissist
No Contact After Separation from an abuser - Survivors share
Understanding the Victims of Spousal Abuse - Dr. Frank Ochberg
The Ties That Bind Captive to Captor- Stockholm Syndrome - Dr. Frank Ochberg
How to tell if he's not changing.
Barriers to Leaving - A Checklist
Characteristics of Abusers by AARDVARC
Domestic Violence in Police Families by the Purple Beret group
Blaming by Naming: Battered Women and the Epidemic of Codependence - by Phyllis B. Frank and Gail Kadison Golden (pdf)
How Abusers Stage Their Returns by AARDVARC
Scripture and Domestic Abuse - Rev. Dr,. Marie Fortune
Sheltering the Pets of Abused Women - SAAV
Stay or Leave? Go back or Stay Away?: An Explanation - Kim Eyer
How To Tell They are Not Changing Their Abusive Behavior\
Child Custody Justice - Lundy Bancroft
The Batterer as a Parent - Lundy Bancroft
Understanding the Batterer in Child Custody and Visitation Disputes - Lundy Bancroft
Stalking
Why Couples Counselling is not Appropriate in Domestic Violence
Lethality Risk Assessment
Violence against women and men in Australia - What the Personal Safety Survey can and can't tell us about domestic violence. By Michael Flood.
How the fathers' rights movement betrays victims of violence and protects perpetrators – Michael Flood.
The myth of women’s false accusations of domestic violence and misuse of protection orders – Michael Flood.
The myth of false accusations of child abuse. – Michael Flood.

TEEN DATING VIOLENCE

What is Teen Dating Violence?
Dealing with Dating Abuse by Heather Boerner

EFFECTS AND MANAGEMENT

Abusive Relationship Healing - 5 Tips For Lifting Depression After Your Abusive Relationship - By Jeanne King Ph.D
Survivors and Insomnia
PTSD Defined
Coping With Flashbacks
Coping with Panic Attacks
Tips on going to the GYN
Coping with Rape Anniversaries
Grounding
Containment - Consciously choosing to postpone dealing with intrusive PTSD symptoms
Stress Responses in Sexual Trauma Victims and in Others Experiencing Overwhelming Events Article by Dr. Erwin R. Parsons and Luerena K. Bannon
Sexual arousal and sexual assault
Rape Trauma Syndrome: The Journey to Healing Belongs to Everyone - Amy Menna, LMHC, CAP

HEALING

‘The Shark Cage’: the use of metaphor with women who have experienced abuse - Ursula Benstead - This is an excellent article on revictimization.
Coping with Therapy Sessions
Coping with Body Memories
Coping with fear of the Dentist
Peaceful Heart: A Woman's Journey of Healing After Rape - Aimee Jo Martin
Accepting our Broken Bits: Never "Over It" But Still Healing by Louise McOrmond-Plummer
Panic Attacks & PTSD by Louise McOrmond-Plummer
PTSD and a Sense of Foreshortened Future Lorne Cansler
Pandora's Aquarium Articles on Healing and Self-care after Rape - a range of worthwhile reads

MISCELLANEOUS

Why is it Wrong to be a Victim? - By Dr. Frank Ochberg
A Woman's Worst Nightmare: An essay exploring why women are afraid of men by Mary Dickson
The Compulsion to Repeat Trauma - Bessel van der Kolk
Non-Rational Guilt in Victims of Trauma - Gail M. Price
The use of violence by fathers’ rights activists: A compilation of news reports -Michael Flood
Carefully Listening To Radical Feminist Women, For A Change
Claims about Husband Battering - Michael Flood
Backlash: Angry Men's Movements - Michael Flood
Fostering Men's Responsibility for Preventing Sexual Assault - Alan Berkowitz
Men's movements
Blackshirts stripped bare
The politics of fathers' rights activists - The hate speech and extremism of fathers' rights groups - M.C. DUNN
False Accusations of Rape – Jim Hines
Sex Crimes Can't be Blamed on Victims – Jim Hines.
The Porn Debate – Stan Goff writes that pornography represents the eroticised degradation of women.