Cameron Boyd, Australian Centre for the Study of Sexual Assault (ACSSA) Aware Newsletter, Issue 14, June 2007:
"Real rape, real pain validates the traumatic and abusive nature of partner abuse, and challenges many of the myths that deny or minimise the harm caused by this form of sexual assault. The inclusion of women's stories (including some detailed accounts of abuse) and the jargon-free stye make it widely accessible...As well as being directly accessible to women who have experienced sexual assault by a partner, this could also be a useful resource for counsellors as a way of addressing the profound sense of isolation that women in sexually abusive relationships often feel...By emphasising healing and positive steps that women can take, the book offers hope without denying the horrific and disturbing reality faced by many women."
Shelley McInnis, The Canberra Times, December 16, 2006:
"...Gently encourages her along a healing path, challenging society's denial of the seriousness of her experiences, the ignorance and sexism of perpetrators and condoners of intimate violence, the negative self-talk which can result from this special kind of wounding...Should be welcomed as a worthy contribution to the literature on violence against women."
Dr. Emma Williamson,Women's Aid (UK), SAFE Domestic Violence Quarterly, Summer 2006
"The authors of this excellent book admirably achieve what they set out to...This is a book written by women for women. It is an excellent training tool for domestic violence workers to begin to understand the relationship between rape and domestic violence and invaluable to women dealing with rape as part of their experiences. The chapters which address trauma make this a good book for counsellors, therapists, and other professionals whose work involves dealing with any form of gendered violence....This book is practical, powerful, and above all, has the power to change, for the better, many women's lives. I would highly recommend this book."