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• Partner Rape Awareness buttons

• How Common is Partner Rape? The Stats
• Partner Rape and Domestic Violence
• Types of Partner Rape
• Abuser's Excuses

• This is an external link to the book I've co-authored with Dr. Patricia Easteal Real Rape, Real Pain: Help for Women Sexually Assaulted by male partners. It is the only survivor literature to deal specifically with partner rape. It covers many of the topics on this site in a much more comprehensive way, and has way more information such as Perpetrator motivations, legal issues, a chapter for supporters etc. Go see for yourself.

• This is an external link to Pandora's Aquarium, a forum for male and female survivors of rape and sexual assault. I am a moderator there. There are many survivors of partner rape there plus a forum for abusive relationships in which you can get support for any stage of your process, whether you're still in the relationship or not.
  • Click here to see what you'll find at Pandy's.
  • Browse our articles on many aspects of sexual assault
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  • Re Chat: We Have a safely moderated chatroom. Note: You need to make five posts on the board before using the chatroom. You might like to make your first post in the introduction forum, where you'll be made very welcome.

This is a page of resources for counsellors, advocates, legal, medical and other professionals who come into contact with victims/survivors of intimate partner sexual violence. Browse the following:

• A Brief Look at Professional Responses to Partner Rape
• Studies, Papers & Journals
• Books and Essays
• Training & Other Programs
• Websites
• Support Groups for Survivors

• What kind souls are saying about Aphrodite Wounded!

• About Me
• Recent Stuff
• My Family
• Heroes and Sheroes
• Likes
• Dislikes

• Beginnings
• When the Abuse Started
• Rape
• Worst Things
• Leaving
• Events After
• When It Began to Come Back
• Healing
• Where I am Now

• Reading the Stories
• Sharing Your Story
• The Stories

• What's happening on the legal scene around the world

Definitions: What is rape and sexual assault?

• Rape/Sexual Assault
• What is "Force"?
• Coercion and Consent
• Other Forms of Sexual Abuse
• Sources

Myths: Exploring and Exploding False Beliefs About Partner Rape

• Why Challenge the Myths?
• What are the Myths?
• Sources

• Read First
• Women's Common Responses Following Partner Rape
• Short and Long-Tem Effects
• Physical Effects
• Effects on Teenage Survivors
• PTSD and Rape Trauma Syndrome
• Other Abuse in Your Life?

• Read First
• Why Women Stay
• Staying and Safety
• Staying and Healing
• Further Reading

• Read First
• For Non-Cohabiting Survivors of Violence
• Want to Leave but are Frightened? 
• Danger Alerts
• Children?
• Counselling?
• Restraining Orders?
• Rape 
• Stalking
• Support

History of Child Abuse: The Relationship Between Child Abuse and Adult Revictimization

• Introduction
• My Childhood Abuse
• Resources for Survivors of Child Sexual Abuse
• Sources

• Things To Know About Healing
• Still Beating Yourself Up for Staying?
• Naming Partner Rape
• Secondary Wounding
• Thoughts and Feelings You Might Experience
• Strategies for Healing and Empowerment
• New Relationships?
• Is Healing Ever Complete?

Sexuality: Sexual Healing After Partner Rape

• Introduction
• When Sex Becomes a Weapon
• Suggestions For Reclaiming Sexuality
• Intimacy

Poetry and Prose

• Bits and Pieces by me as I healed

Good Links: Internet Resources

• Rape Survivor Sites
• Date and Marital/Partner Rape
• Domestic Violence
• Specialist Survivor Sites
• Men's Anti Violence Initiatives
• Gay and Lesbian
• Legal Resources
• Child Sexual Abuse
• Faith / Spirituality Resources
• Stalking
• Rape Related Pregnancy
• PTSD
• Rape Trauma Syndrome
• Teen Help
• Eating Disorders
• Depression / Suicide
• Anxiety & Panic
• Activism and Feminism
• Self-injury
• For Fun & Uplifting

• Browse the links, send me your banner or pop your plug-button on my plugboard

• My Book
• New Books
• Marital and Partner Rape
• Trauma and Healing
• Domestic Violence
• For Teenagers
• Personal Survivor Accounts
• Rape Culture
• Rape and Law
• Religion, Domestic Violence and Rape
• Poetry

• Australia
• New Zealand
• England
• Scotland
• Wales
• Northern Ireland
• Eire
• USA
• Canada
• Europe

• Also, how to send me your site banner and url - or you can just pop your button on my plugboard

• That I belong to!

• I have an award for survivor-oriented sites that mention marital and partner rape. If your site does that, please feel free to snag it.

• I've had one or two :)

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